pushed aside

Why is it when someone is going through a "battle" of some kind the most important things seem to get pushed aside or put on the back burner. When we do that kind of stupid stuff are we protecting or hurting those that truely love us?

I am going through an ordeal right now where for a while i HAVE been "pushed aside" and set on the "back burner" so to speak. I'd rather be there shoulder to shoulder with this person, but he thinks I'd be safer on the side lines or tucked away some where. I'm not like that.I had been done like that once or twice before by another man.
i'm not as frail or delicate as some might think. But this one man in paticular thinks he knows whats best for me. DOES HE REALLY????????
Don 't get me wrong I know he means well, but he is trying to sort it out in the bottom of a bottle and shot glass. since the hot humid oven burning heat hit back in june we for the short part of it maybe a month off and on have been inside because its just been way too hot to do any kind of outside work.
Any way the stress of it all finally got to me and i "flew the coop" so to speak. what i can't understand why make this "battle" a mountain out of a mole hill?
He was told by his attorney "not to worry its all been taken care of." but yet he is worrying and has pushed me off to the side. Yes it hurts, hurts like a fire burn. I have tried to cry but managed to squeeze out a few tears, not enough to make me feel better or cause my eyes to swell. but just a few.
I guess in the end it will be decided if i win with him or i loose him or he looses me. this man and I have been through an awful lot in the 2 yrs we have known each other. I haven't asked him for anyting. he has just "been there". I have been so greatful for it too. I'm not sure how i will end this , I'm not sure where I'm going with it either. But either way this page will end.